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Wednesday, October 28, 2015

The Miseducation of Domestic Violence By Nicole Lofton

Hello Again! I have yet again something to share with you all today lol.  I finally finished my ebook/pdf "The Miseducation of Domestic Violence:Dispelling The Myths In Order To Promote The Truth

This is just a small PDF and this is something that has been on my heart. There are so many myths about domestic violence and I always try to dispel those myths. I addressed 10 of them that I feel are common or that I hear about the most. 

I pray that this blesses someone, please feel free to share it as well. If you would like to get in contact me, you can email me at 

You can view the eBook by clicking on the cover or you can download it by clicking here The Miseducation Of Domestic Violence

Award Winning Singer/Songwriter Laura Baron Premieres New Video About Domestic Violence!

Hello again to all my wonderful readers and supporters!

Once again, I have something to share with you. As you know already, I love to see or hear about people spreading awareness about domestic violence and I am always open to working with anyone supporting this cause. I was blessed to receive an email from singer/songwriter Laura Baron who shared with me that she had made a music video to raise awareness for domestic violence.

When people reach out to me, I like to take my time to actually listen or read what is that they are doing, have done, or want to do so it did take me a couple of days to watch the video in its entirety. I can honestly say that I absolutely love this video. The video is very emotional but I appreciate the realness of it. It tells and shows the story of a woman breaking free from domestic violence. I believe that this is a video that everyone should see. I am happy to be able to blog about it and share it with you all today.

I am happy to present to you Laura Baron's new music video "A Little Note", please watch and share. Pleasure also visit her  website and learn more about her. Laura truly has a beautiful spirit.

Monday, October 26, 2015 A Website That Is Making A Difference!

Hello to all of my readers!

Today, I want to share a very important resource with you all. Some of you may already know of this resource already. I have been meaning to write about this resource for some time now and I finally got around to it. The resource that I am speaking of is and as I wrote in the title of this blog post, it is definitely a website that is making a difference in the lives of survivors, victims, and those around them.

Well is the LARGEST(see how I wrote that lol) online searchable database for domestic violence shelters. This is something that has definitely been well needed in the domestic violence field. was started by Theresa's Fund and The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Not only does it provide information regarding shelters, they provide many other resources as well including amazing articles for anybody that has a questions about DV, anybody who is experiencing DV, and anybody that has survived DV. 

Although has only been around for a little over year, they have already had about 525,000 visitors. I would definitely encourage you all to utilize, check out and share this website. It is definitely a step in the right direction of domestic violence awareness and the fight to stop domestic violence. 

Saturday, October 24, 2015

Ashton Kutcher And His Media Company A Plus Spread Awareness About Domestic Violence!

I am thoroughly excited that Ashton Kutcher and his media company A Plus have decided to join the fight against domestic violence. Domestic Violence is still a cause that needs much attention and I always think it is awesome when celebrities help raise awareness. I know that ANYBODY can raise awareness, but celebrities can raise awareness on a bigger scale and so I think what Ashton Kutcher and his media team are doing is amazing. 

What they have done is created an infographic that shows, in their words, "the effects of abuse that outlast physical violence, but are still detrimental". The infographic basically shows what happens after abuse and how it affects the survivor as far as their children, their employment, and their living situations go. 

Infographics are great because some people are visual, meaning they need to see something in order to understand it. Not everyone can or wants to read a long paragraph or a bunch of statistics simply because it is not the way that they learn. Ashton Kutcher and A Plus did a great job with this infographic. I have posted it below. I would also encourage you to check out their website to learn more about them in general and the many other causes that they are raising awareness for. Here is the  link to their site

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Dear Survivor, It's Time To Heal

Dear Survivor,

I hope this message finds you at the right time in your life. It's been a while since I have wrote on this blog, but I am always grateful for all of you who still read and keep up with this particular blog. I have a very important message on my heart. It is one that God has placed on my heart this week and that message is that it is time to heal.

This is only goes for you, but it  goes for me as well. It is time for us to heal and allow ourselves to be free to be ourselves again as well as to love and be loved. Now I know some people may feel like they have already healed. I felt that way too, but sometimes we are only temporarily or half way healed.

The moment that we keep replaying our situation and it brings us down instead of uplifting us, that is a sign that we are not yet healed. The moment when we try to begin a new relationship or endeavor, but the memories of the past begin to haunt us and hold us back, then we are not healed yet. The moment we feel ashamed of what we went through so we will not share our story, that is a sign that we have not healed yet. The moment when we continue to enter unhealthy relationships because they don't seem as bad as the previous ones, that is a sign that we have not healed yet.

Now, don't get me wrong, I understand healing is a process and sometimes a lengthy one, but I know for sure that I myself still have some healing to do and God is the only one that can truly heal us. Sometimes we get in the way of our healing by refusing to let go of the negative/unwanted thoughts or even sometimes refusing to let go of the people that are bring us down.

How will we know when we have truly healed? Well, we will know that we have healed, when we can look back on our situations and smile. Why smile? Because you survived! You thought you would not make it! If we are being honest, you probably thought that would not live to see another day when you were going through the situation you were going through. You thought you would never be happy again, never have peace again, never find happiness, but you have! You live another day to testify and share your story to help someone else!

That is the beautiful thing about surviving and also the beautiful thing about pain because pain has purpose. Think about all the strength and wisdom that you gained from that painful situation. During the situation you may have forgot your worth, but surviving that situation helped you find your worth again.

We all deserve to feel free, to be ourselves, to love ourselves, to spread love, WE DESERVE IT! We deserve to all ourselves to heal. I pray that everyone of you that comes across this blog post gains something from it, it doesn't matter what you survived, this one is for ALL survivors!

I pray that the peace of God falls down on you and that his love captures you and just holds you so that you can know how wonderful you truly are and that you know that you no longer have to hurt, that you know your worth and what you deserve. I pray that God gives you the strength to rise up and leave any situation that is not for you.  I also pray that he gives you the strength to continue to survive and the strength to share your story to bless someone else.

I love you all, God Bless
-Nicole Lofton

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Thank You For Surviving!

Dear Survivor,

Has anyone ever told you thank you for surviving? If not, then I would like to be the first person to tell you, so here it goes: THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SURVIVING! Now, some may be wondering, why I decided to say that or what that really means. What it means is that, surviving domestic violence is more than just leaving or escaping an unhealthy relationship, because even after you do that, you still have to SURVIVE. A lot of people do not understand what domestic violence survivors go through on a daily basis, they have to fight emotions, block out negative thoughts, maybe even tune out negative people, they have to learn to love themselves again, they have to learn to believe in themselves again, they have to believe they are are worth living, they have to learn to trust again and most importantly they have to HEAL!

Surviving is not something that happens overnight, surviving is something that you do everyday, so from one survivor to another, I just really wanted to say THANK YOU FOR SURVIVING because your survival gives someone else strength to survive. For those who may have lost a loved one due to domestic violence, if you are reading this, I want to you know that even though the person that you lost may not be here physically, they still survived and they are in a much better place in Heaven. They fought for their lives everyday and they did survive and now their legacy lives on within you and when a person has a legacy, when a person is so powerful that they can touch many lives even when they are not here on earth, that means they survived.

Also, to the families of those who lost a loved one, I want you also THANK YOU FOR SURVIVING because your survival will also give someone else strength to survive. Pain has purpose and we may not understand it at time time, but eventually God will help us make sense of us it and He will give us peace, strength, and purpose.

I thank you all for reading! In fact, now that I am writing, let me take the time out to thank my readers, if it was not for you all, no one would even know about this blog, you all give me strength to write. I know sometimes I slack as far as how much I blog, but you all have been tremendous with your support and I thank you.

God Bless,

Nicole C. Lofton